Queer, wlw, she/her, a fic writer (mostly F/F and F/F/F), and sometimes I make fan music. It tends to be pretty deep cut even for fandom, but you want a theme for the 1964 Blue Morpho pilot? You've found your musician.
Super fucked up! wtf is wrong with these people? #IamWithMili!
What is every little girl supposed to have long hair in a ponytail? So happy to see all of the support going her way.
Everybody remembers that we absolutely knew this would happen, right?
Like, trans people predicted this from the start. Everyone was SO SURE they could identify us on sight, and we said “If you run with that assumption you’re going face-first into a goddamn wall” and here we go.
It’s like people forget women with short hair exist.
In the six years that this has happened, Milli has continued to play soccer, is on track for joining a national team, and still keeps her hair short.
Read this and take it in.
Even if you have your papers.
Even if you are fortunate to have your gender match your sex.
Even if you were assigned feminine at birth.
They can still tell you to your face you’re not a woman if you don’t conform to a patriarchal standard of skinny Anglo with long hair.
They can just deny you for no reason at all.
THIS MAKES ALL THOSE SPORTS BANS LAWS USELESS AT PROTECTING CIS GIRLS! The very thing tbey were supposed to do!
Let’s get one thing right.
Sports bans, bathroom bans, ANY type of ban on trans people in public places were NEVER meant to protect cis girls or women or women’s sports or any of that crap.
They’re about control and forcing ALL people to conform to stereotypical gender norms and eradicating trans people in the process.
In case anyone doesn’t know, to decant a wine is to take it out of the container it fermented in and pour it into a bottle while sifting out the sediment and detritus that has settled to the bottom over the years that it’s been closed.
If this story is true, which is so horribly in character that I have to imagine that it is, then they probably had some needlessly extravagant Rich People wine at this party. I’d ballpark at least a couple hundred per bottle, maybe a couple thousand knowing the kinds of brown-nosing marks that tend to spawn near Elon.
What this means is that he was likely drinking yucky dirty shitty Wine Dregs that were potentially rotting for decades, typically consisting of dead yeast, insoluble rotting grape skins/seeds, and honestly probably a bunch of other shit that you HAVE to filter out before drinking “real” wine.
i’m sure i’ve missed a few things, but i can’t stand to look at it any longer. i present to you: the good, the bad, and the ugly of tumblr throughout the decade
there’s lots of reasons why someone may use a cane, even outside of chronic pain. some have trouble with balance, some are at risk of fainting or falling and need it to support themselves, some have muscle weakness etc. id say the best gauge would be to get a cheap cane (you can get one for maybe 15-20 bucks on amazon or at pharmacies) and try and use it for a few days. if it’s more inconvenient than helpful, you may not need a cane or need a different aid. if you find it to be useful then keep using it! mobility aids can often be inconvenient, like only having one hand to do things with. id you find it to be more trouble than helpful then id say look into other aids that could help (and maybe donate the cane!)
i hope that helps!
I need to add - using a cane properly is an immense help. Using a cane wrong will jack you up in ways that will take a long time to heal - just ask Hugh Laurie, who did everything wrong on House and threw his back out.
What did he do wrong?
1) The cane handle was too low. It should be about where your thigh creases at your hip. Your arm will be bent about 12 degrees. You shouldn’t rock to one side like he did. Get an adjustable cane for your starter so you can set the right height.
2) He held his cane on the bad side. The cane supports the bad leg, it doesn’t replace it. It should be on the opposite side of your body, again so you don’t rock hard to one side with every step like Hugh did.
Once your cane is set right, and on the correct side (just pick a side if you don’t have one side worse than the other) then walk forward normally, the cane hitting the ground at the same time as the bad leg.
Are you rocking or dipping to one side? Adjust cane height.
Is your elbow hurting? The cane is too high.
Is your shoulder hurting? Try not to lean so hard on the cane (if you can.)
Is your hand hurting? You need a different handle. My preference is an offset, the kind that looks a bit like a question mark- it distributes the weight best.
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